March 26, 2019

Should Mom Cut Disabled Dad Some “Slack” for Past Due Child Support?

Difficult choiceShould a custodial parent “cut some slack” to a non-custodial parent who is disabled and unable to work?  Child support orders that are based on a father’s pre-disability income will be untenable when the non-custodial dad cannot work.   The disabled father may not have the funds to hire a lawyer to go back to court to ask for  a modification, and the delinquency balance will grow and grow.   As a number of disabled fathers have reported, a child support delinquency resulting from an unexpected medical condition and loss of income can result in a wholesale forfeiture of both the lump sum and part of the monthly disability award. Is it reasonable to ask custodial parents to help the fathers of their children, or should the child support awards be fully enforced?

Here a woman named Patty weighs in.  Do you agree with her take?

I think lots of women take advantage when a man is down and out and is disabled. I believe that yes they should take care of their children but what they can afford monthly based on disability income. They should also look at the reasons why that person is behind maybe he could not work for a few years and maybe the mother wouldn’t tell them where their child was and he just happened to stumble on where she lived. Also the Grandmother who has placement told him not to worry about child support and now she is worried and thats just what the mother said but the man stated that if they need any help then he would help if he has the money. Come on women quit being so money hungry. Oh yes by the way, I am a woman stating this.



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Jonathan Ginsberg practices Social Security disability law in Atlanta, Georgia.  He represents clients in claims before the Social Security Administration.

Comments

  1. david abernathy says:

    my ex’s get 3 fourth;s of my disabilty ck.according to my drs. i only have 3-4 yr. life expectancy.i have 400.00 a month to live on.i go without heat,medication,s,drs. appts,descent food no recreation period.my ex’s also get a disabilty check from each child.putting them getting $1,ooo or more a month from me.they get there hair & nails done regularlly , buy new clothes.while i sit in poverty and wait to die.can’t get food stamps or medicaid cause they look at i suppose to getand don’t take into accord the child support i pay.i really feel i’am being railroaded.

  2. I agree, Patty. I know a woman who has collected SSDI benefit and child support, adding up to a staggering amount. The NCP cannot afford an attorney. Women need to be reasonable.

  3. my ex owes me thousands i have a court ordered issue i am on ssi, he gets 1500. a month i supported these loving 4 children. He walks back in after being gone 25 years he needs someone when he dies. Sorry i feel like telling him you owe me i get 674. from ssi why shouldn’t he have to pay i worked my tail off for 20 years my back started going out i messed around and by the time the system got done it was to late for me to collect my ssdi i worked 2 jobs for 18 years. I think wa wa calll the wambulance pay up i thin k he should have to pay me i am in worst case than him he drives new truck i don’t have one this system sucks . he should be made to pay all that money back. he gets 900. from the va. dead beat fathers should pay now or later what makes a difference he is just a pot smoking idiot

  4. Choua Yang says:

    to you all out there… i believe that even if the man is on social security it does not matter… they can have all these kids with different woman and don’t even have to worry about child support. he doesn’t even come around to see his kids and the struggles that i go through each day. they deserve to pay child support. this bastard should die or never have kids. he only laughs at me that i am receiving 169.00 per child per month and that is not even enough to raise a child. how upsetting…

  5. I live in Illinois and i’m disabled on SS Disability, i’m bed ridden. I have heart failure an enlarged heart, hypertension, and sleep on a machine. I’m going to DIE! But Lisa Madigan States Att., of Illinois thinks she will make me pay. I can’t even work and I have to ask the Question what type of Country is this that would hound a person on their death bed??? I WANT KNOW!! I’m a vet.. Please explain to me why I can’t die in peace????????????????????? What kind of people are you?? YOU MAKE ME SICK! I feel like a jew living in NAZI GERMANY!! That’s what it’s like! This fithy Country even let the lockabey bomber who killed over 199 people go because he was on his death bed.. Me, because i’m poor and on Disability Lisa Madigan Illinois Staes Att. is going to take me thru the court system and beat me till I die! My heart problem is enough, I won’t be able to take this added stress!!! But LISA MADIGAN is for the women, all her programs are for women! Evidently she is a man hater!! I have to say i’m very happy the State of Illinois is going BROKE!! WOOW, WOOW!! I’M HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY!! When llinois goes under so will all their programs for women, ha, ha, ha!! It’s going to be wonderful to watch women pay their own way for a change!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ha, ha, ha!! IF YOUR A MAN IN ILLINOIS STOP PAYING ANY CHILD SUPPORT!!! DON’T GIVE THEM A DIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DON’T SUPPORT THIS FILTHY MAN HATING ANTI FAMILY SYSTEM!! DON’T PAY ANY MORE CHILD SUPPORT!!!

  6. Hey, Choua Yang!! Get a Job!! People in this Country believe in equal rights!! Your just another man HATER!! That’s right, your a man HATER!!! If there was someone HATEFUL like you Choua Yang why would any man come around you??? Why?? You should be alone your just a hate filled bastard yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  7. I live in ILLINOIS. LISA xxxx is going to force me to pay child support when I can’t work. Have an enlarged heart, heart failure, sleep on a machine. I hope the state of ILLINOIS jails me!! I JUST HOPE THEY DO! While in the military I got the T-Gondii parisite. This STUPID WOMEN JAILS ME ILL INFECT THEIR ENTIRE JAIL SYSTEM!! You people will pay for how i’m being treated! I PROMISE YOU! YOU WON’T EVEN LET A MAN DIE IN PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I CURSE YOU PEOPLE AND THIS STINKING FILTHY STATE OF ILLINOIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU ARE NOTHING BUT HEARTLESS BASTARDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  8. ERNEST SMITH says:

    I BELEVE IF A PERSON HAS TO PAY CHILDSUPPORT AND THEY ARE ON SOCIAL SECURITY DIABILITY.THAN THE MONEY THAT IS BEING RECIEVED FORM CHILDSUPPORT SHOULD BE MONITORED.TO MAKE SURE THE CHILD IS TRULY GETTING THE MONEY. MOST WOMEN AND MEN WHO GET CHILDSUPPORT SPEND 90% OF THE MONEY ON THEY SELF. PEOPLE ON SOCIAL SECURITY DIABILITY HAVE TO GO TO HELL. TO GET THE MONEY THEY HAVE WORKED ALL THEY LIFES FOR AND NOW WE WANT THE GOV. TO TAKE IT AWAY BECAUSE OF OTHER PEOPLE PERSONAL GAIN. WE ALL SHOULD HAVE PAYED ATTENTION TO OUR PARENTS WHEN THEY SAID KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED. childsupport payments should be reduce if we are to take money from the weak.

  9. ERNEST SMITH says:

    STOP TRYING TO COMPARE WHAT HAPPEN TO YOU. BECAUSE YOUR BOYFRIEND LEFT YOU WITH FOUR KIDS. ALL CASES ARE NOT THE SAME. WE DON’T NEED TO BE TAKING MONEY FROM SOCIAL SECURITY DIABILITY. OR THE WEAK. IF YOU ARE IN GOOD HEALTH MEN UP OR WOMEN UP. AND GET A JOB SO YOU CAN TAKE CARE OF YOU KIDS. ASK NOT WHAT AMERICA CAN DO FOR YOU. BUT WHAT YOU CAN DO FOR YOUR KIDS. AND KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED.

  10. ERNEST SMITH says:

    I KNOW IT IS HARD TO BRING UP KIDS. OUR PARENTS TOLD US SO. JUST KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED. AND OPEN THEM WHEN YOU HAVE YOUR LIFE TOGETHER. AND MAKING THE RIGHT CHOICES IN HAVING KIDS. IT TAKE TO BUT IF YOU MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICES YOU CAN NOT GO WRONG.DONT BLAIM OTHER PEOPLE FOR THE MISTAKE YOU MADE IN LIFE. IF YOUR PARTNER LEAVE YOU WITH YOUR PANTS DOWN. PULL THEM UP AND TAKE CARE OF WHAT YOU KNOW BEST.

  11. As for gregs comment actually it is the other way around it is set up now for the men. Maybe if you even gave a god dam about your children to even find this out you would of knew support and visitation has noyhing to do with the other. You can not br denied access to your children because you owe support. So rather than use death as a reason for somone to care. Why should they. Honestly what did you ever do for them. You were gone for how many years. So now you want to rekindle a relationship because your a vet and on your deathbed. I would be ashamed of myself to want respect becuse your a vet that can honor his country and what it stands for but not your children that live in it. Where is the people that you spent your life with that were better than seeing your children. SO no one else is left and they are your last resort. Im s0rry but i do not have any sympathy for you what so ever those children endure difficult life problems growing up by a single parent and now you want respect you have no idea how hard it is being a single parent and no one is asking anyone to have sympathy for single parents we want respect and deserve it because it is harder than anything you could imagine. You just cant walk in and gain respect and make ammends because hey dads dying in there eyes you have been dead for a long time UNDERSTAND! so quit complaining and fighting and go another route

  12. Oh and as for the men thst owe back child support. You seem to forget all the sacrifices we had to make to raise kids on a one income and the money we spent out of our pockets so if they want to go get their nails done good for them. Didnt stop you from living your life and having things now did it.

    Hey I come from the same sitiuation I have two young children. One my son his father was not there ever until i took him for support and since that day it has been nonstop court filings to get custody. Which will never happen. He owes me support I just think he is a joke. He now collest SSDI and gets 681. for my son while he owes back support. I simply went to the SS O ffice showed proof the child lives with me and now I am the Payee while he lied and stated the child lived with him. He showed a false document stating he had custody of my son. When it never happened. WAIT IT GETS BETTER, SO FOR ALL YOU PEOPLE THAT SAY MONEY HUNGRY WOMEN. PLEASE. I have his daughter which he knows is his I raise her all on my own. SHE IS BETTER OFF……. He denies her because he was at my house SEEING HIS SON and then had sex with me but is ready to get married in a month which if i knew never would of happened it was what it was sex. So do not sit there and say MONEY HUNGRY!! THE SAD PART IS MY CHILDRENS FATHER IS A SCHOOL TEACHER!!!!!!
    I do not go after my daughters father because of the nasty court proceedings he has gone to every attempt possible to try and get custody and still does not work. I do not speak any ill feelings about his father I always tell him he should have his father in his life (mysons own words ) he said to a concilliator he made my 7yr old go in front of another attempt that blew up in his face. SO I REST MY CASE

  13. Well said Earnest you can go through life doing the blame game. i will not ever let that man break me never it makes me stronger every time and every attempt he tries to get my son i mean he literally ran me trhough the mud. But i keep going.

    I live a wonderful life with my kids and I never needed there father to do so. I raised both my kids as a single parent and I am living proof that yes it is very hard but i get up every day and live the life i made for myself.

    They didnt choose the parents they have!!!!

    So dont make them have to choose now. You can have a happy life not married and being a single parent or even if being seperated.
    The hostilities need to stop put the bitter feeling behind and move on for sake of your children. Its sounds great but it would be a perfect world if it would happen!!!!

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